Integrity in Death
Losing a Loved One, Finding Forgiveness
By Guy F. Riekeman on behalf of Life University
I belong to a very small club, which has no honorary members and not one of us wishes to be in the club — parents who have needlessly lost our children through violence, ignorance, arrogance or irresponsibility. I lost my daughter at the hands of an arrogant MD who performed procedures we had forbidden him to use, and then lied to cover up his mistakes. Scarlett Lewis lost her son to the senseless violence of a shooter at Sandy Hook Elementary. How do you deal with the loss of a child?
I related to Scarlett when she spoke at LIFE Talks, not just because of our similar losses, but because of the path we took afterward. For me, it took almost 20 years before I could forgive; it happened while I was standing next to the Dalai Lama taking pictures after a private audience with His Holiness. I realized that hate truly is like drinking poison in hope it will harm the other person. My life was before that moment, and continues to be, one of training chiropractors to save children by what they do. Scarlett chose to set up a foundation in her son’s memory, write a book, A Mother’s Journey of Hope and Forgiveness, and has become an activist for peace.
Even in death, if we have integrity, the desire to be complete and whole, the desire to live by values that enhance the human experience, even then, we can find peace and forgiveness. This final step of Integrity from Birth to Death is available you at Videos.LIFETalks.org.